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  • Blog, Maylo, Mindfulness

    The Space Between No Longer and Not Yet

    I am always reminding my yoga students to be mindful when transitioning out of one pose and into another. That the ‘in between’ places are just as important as the places we land.

    Patanjali, who wrote the yoga Sutras, teaches us that how we practice on the mat is an indicator of how we live off of the mat. I can feel it when a student is rushing ahead of their practice. I wonder how often we do this in our lives? Running ahead of the moment.

    What I have experienced in my own life is that it is in the places of transition that transformation happens.

    We all are resistant to change…something as small as moving your cubicle from one side of the building to another can feel overwhelming. But if we can slow down enough to honor the in-between space…to honor the space between no longer and not yet…and by slow down, I do not mean move at a slower pace. I mean…slow down your mind.

    Try not to buy into the drama as the mind starts saying “this is hard…I don’t want to…it’s too much work…” If we can be present with the moments of transition and be just as steady and calm as if we were comfortably humming along in our habits, how much stress would we be able to eliminate?

    I have been thru many transitions in my life, as I know you have as well. And, I know one thing for certain, change is inevitable and transitions will continue to move me to the next stage of my life. Nothing really stays the same. Life is fluid!

    So, let your practice be to observe your active, wonderful mind, during a transition in your life, but remember that you do not have to buy into the drama in your head.

    Use your deep breaths to settle and be still and accepting and, to a certain degree, surrender to the process of transition because truly, it is in that place that you will transform.

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  • Blog, Chronic Pain, Kourtney, Wellness

    Massage Anxiety? Take the first step…

    Massage Anxiety?  Afraid to even try a Professional Massage? When I received my first massage, I was very nervous. Yet, I quickly learned the benefits of a professional massage are so incredible, it’s worth it to let go of the anxiety.

    First, know your fears are common. I remember a flood of questions in my mind. Am I supposed to lay naked on the table? Where exactly are they going to touch me? Are they going to see my butt? What if I can’t relax? What if my armpits stink? Are they going to see my mole?…The big one?!

    Really! These were just a few of the concerns I had before the massage started.
    But once it began, it felt so nice!  I wondered what I had been so anxious about.  Amazing!

    Then my anxiety began to rise again. The therapist tried to move my arms–I moved them for her.  Just trying to be extra helpful, I told myself.  But, I held them so tight, because I wasn’t sure if my armpits were smelly. I held up each finger during the hand massage. I lifted and turned my head for her as she did my neck massage. I held my legs as still as possible so they wouldn’t be wobbling around. And I tried very hard to not be ticklish when she got to my feet, which ended with me almost kicking her in the face!  All of which defeated the purpose of relaxing and receiving the benefits of a massage.

    Yet, it was still great. After my massage, I felt energized! Having someone focus on making my body feel relaxed was a very unique and enjoyable experience. It was no longer scary, and I felt that I had done my part to be helpful.

    With all that said, try not to be nervous! Everyone has had body anxiety at some point. If you think about it, your massage therapist would not have chosen this profession if they were uncomfortable with the differences in people’s bodies.

    So, I kept going.  Over time, I realized how therapeutic a massage is — both mentally and physically. But, it wasn’t until I GAVE my first massage that I realized the proper way to receive a massage…

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